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So the truck has to go back because the tie rod fix did not take care of the noise, and after leaving it all day Friday, the conclusion is that it needs a new ball joint. *sigh*
And then Jbird had a near flat tire that went back down a second time, so we took THAT in and he had a big nail in it. Thankfully, fixable and no new tire needed.

So, Saturday.. the Choose Joy seminar. I had wondered how 'choosing Joy' fitted in with the Train Your Brain bit, and this pieced it together for me. Basically, how Train Your Brain works is to get you out of the Cycle of Perpetual Sameness (negative thoughts, negative actions, negative results). This goes a bit deeper than simple Positive Thinking, which can feel bloody false. Think of it this way.. say you buy a Ford Fusion. You've never really noticed them before, but suddenly there are dozens of them out on the road. You wave at each other, feel a little lift and notice more and more of them when you're out.
Same sort of thing: there aren't MORE FFs on the road, but now your subconscious has raised them into your conscious mind and you see them apart from all the other vehicles out there. So.. getting out of a shitty mindset involves training the conscious mind to see positives and feel the emotion of being lifted up by them, then the subconscious strives to find more matches and you do start seeing more, thereby feeling better.
Taking action on say, one's business, is not going to work out well when the emotion isn't matching a place in which to make positive changes. Your shitty mood isn't going to bring more people around who are happy to be in your space. So now, how to get to a better mood? Well, it's not by jumping right into Joy,.. the place where all the good happens. It's going to take one step up, and only that step to get into a better space. The scale looks like this, with most of us bouncing between Frustration and Hope:

Joy
Knowing
Belief
Hope
Frustration
Anger
Fear
Despair

So, it only take moving up one notch, say from feeling that nothing is good and will never be, to being afraid that things won't work out, up to being angry about it (because anger motivates action), then one can move from being angry to acknowledging that it's frustration stopping the higher emotion. Once there, if you can move up to being hopeful that things will change, only then can you move up to believing it will be better, which is a good place to start using mantras, or affirmations (seeing the other Ford Fusions), and once seeing more of the better, it's a quick step to knowing that it works.. for recognizing when one is operating out of a space of Joy.. where all the energy/action/motivation to keep going, lies.
This process is Intentional Action once it's in the positive .. and this is a real loose and simple breakdown of what was explained in the Cycle of Perpetual Sameness, and involved something called the Reticular Activating System, which I'm still working on understanding deeper.

Then we spent the afternoon on Vision Boards.. more on that to come.

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clevermanka
Dec. 9th, 2013 08:11 pm (UTC)
Hm! I like the idea of positive thinking being like climbing a ladder from Despair to Joy. Interesting! Sounds like you got a lot of good stuff out of the seminar. YAY!
silverfae
Dec. 9th, 2013 09:55 pm (UTC)
Yes, me too.
It makes sense that we can't just hop right into "feel happy" when we're mired in the muck. But .. baby steps, like anything else, get the results.
ashbet
Dec. 14th, 2013 02:36 am (UTC)
I think that makes a lot of sense -- I focus on the "little joys" when life feels overwhelming and awful, even if it's just the fact that I love my fuzzy slippers that keep my feet warm, or my dolls that give me pleasure to look at and photograph, or my cats who snuggle me and make me laugh. And then I can move up to appreciating the wonderful people in my life, and so on. But I do need to work on narrowing my focus to the smaller things first, because the big picture can be too much to deal with at that given moment.

I'm definitely interested in learning more about this -- are you guys working from a text, or is it just seminar-based?

*hugs!*

<3!
silverfae
Dec. 14th, 2013 04:41 am (UTC)

Her book is Train Your Brain. it looks like a concentration on Direct Selling, but I think that it goes so much further than that.
I think she has some videos on her blog, and if you sign up on her site, you will get access to a webinar. Yes, the webinar does sell a very pricey program, but honestly? The info she gives in the webinar is enough to get the gist of her stuff, along with the book.
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